Meh...I'm busy that night.

Being 31 and single is way different than being 21 and single.  

There really is no period of self doubt and the small window that exists for it truly is brief, at least, for me and, at least, this time.  I'm not trying to "find myself" or consider who it is i'm trying to find.  I'm not clinging to a relationship I know has no substance or makes me unhappy.  I'm not trying to please my parents with my choice in men nor am I trying to rebel against them.

I am only trying to be.  

I'm opening a business and working harder than I have in my life and dating right now is totally accidental.  I don't have the time or energy to spend on worry about whether or not a cute guy finds me attractive.  This, I have actually found to work in my favor.  The appearance of being aloof or busy or whatever it is has only been working for me. 

  I think when you're younger you wonder who you'll end up with or if it will be your current boyfriend/girlfriend.  It's likely that women think more about this than men, but I'm sure the notion does cross their mind from time to time.  Personally, this is the first time in my life where I have been single and have every confidence to say, "No, thank you." if I want to.  I don't go and try to analyze what it is they may be going through or feeling, because, for me, I just wasn't feelin' it or not ready or was there with someone else or whatever the case may be. 

 As it turns out, you can politely decline someone buying you a drink or asking you out to dinner and not have them call you a bitch under their breath as they walk away.